Men Are Made Of...

We have our fathers, brothers, husbands, nephews, males in the workplace--are always there, members of our households, communities we live in, citizens of the countries we belong. We knew our men well. We stick with them through good times and through bad times. But what about those news about battered wives, abandoned kids or growing kids without father in a single parent household, abusive men in the workplace and those who consider themselves the "Adonis" of this society, are just too much to think about.
These men, so abusive as they are, may not be aware or have been deaf about women's vulnerability. Yes, women are like earthen vessel, so precious and vulnerable at times. But this doesn't mean that women like me are always broken in spirit and that men are always the winners. I don't think so.
In this gender-biased society, men are portrayed to be always on the right side of the lane. Privileges and social structures remain within the grasps of the males in the society, subtly, hidden but true. Gender bias issue is as old as the society we live in. Let's be realistic that despite the movements from people who are fighting for gender equality, I personally have to admit the underlying discrepancies that remained evident down to these days.
Society may have twisted the views on a one-man-woman relationship. What's worse is that women are always portrayed to be always the icing on the cake, the icons for entertainment. And when men cheat, it's but alright for others treat is a "the norms" of this society. But if a woman cheats or misbehaves, she'll get the unending punishment and ridicule.
The Remains of Reality
Truth is that males are not always as annoying individuals as we're told, no. They too cry, sympathize and have big hearts, those real men who understand their women in various occasions. This is also one good reason why women love to rely on their men most of the time. It's a give and take relationship, a two-way process. And while it's true that some men may hurt you on many occasions, your man may have left you grasping for optimism after he shuts that door behind when he left you, think about your role as well.
Your man may have been the proud Goliath who can't bend his neck to humility or thinks he's the so-called tycoon in the household. But have you asked yourself who permits him to do just that to you? Remember, being in a relationship is giving the other person the right to yourself and that includes not just pure happiness, but pain at the same time.
Understanding is the Key
So yes, you may have had many reasons to cry because you're hurt. I was hurt, you were hurt. Everybody's got the chance to taste bitterness in the relationship but again, there's no perfect relationship. And before you pity yourself completely, understand that you too have a part in relationship so avoid viewing the rafter on your man's eye and check first yours and be a wise woman of this society. If you're not ready to accept your man's weaknesses and see some possible pitfalls while in that relationship, be realistic and get out. The saying "love is blind" is a myth and those people who believes in such adage are wearing blurry contacts for they chose not to see the real situation.
Before you succumb yourself to depression when your man hurt you, understand that you are the woman of this society and that men are here as complement for us in the same way that we complete their existence. And that's why I love Eleanore Roosevelt's words "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. "
So wait right there and stop sympathizing or feeling low on yourself. Why, you too are an individual deserving of his respect and love. You too are created according to God's image and likeness. And as long as you are conducting according to your making, no one can steal your right to be a woman of this society, privileged to live according to your making. So get off that cocoon of pretension and start asking what are men really made of without you? The answer is a sound nothing. We are even with them.